tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-76441239178824202482024-03-13T19:13:31.647-07:00EtiKidsTeach social skills and school skills to children in a fun and developmentally appropriate manner.EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-25606520649002472422016-01-21T19:19:00.000-08:002016-01-21T19:19:27.402-08:00Skill of the Week: The Parents' Guide to the First Year of LifeCongratulations! You just brought your little bundle of joy home from the hospital, and you are so excited to start the rest of your life. You begin to envision your child as a happy baby, growing into a feisty toddler, and beam at the thought of the two of you, hugging, on the first day of preschool. Until... Another fleeting thought... You realize that there are so many stages for your baby to first go through, and you are immediately overwhelmed at the thought of raising your child in a developmentally appropriate manner.
As a pediatric occupational therapist and mommy x 3, I know that it is absolutely frightening to think of every skill that you "should" work on every day- in order to help your child meet developmental milestones. After all, not everyone has the time or energy (hello, newborn sleep-deprivation!) to go through the daily developmental checklist. After working with some of my early intervention families, I realized that many parents would truly appreciate having one skill to focus on each week, incorporating attainable goals to help their children reach milestones.
"Skill of the Week" will offer families an opportunity to engage their babies, using best practices for cognitive, fine motor, gross motor, and social and emotional skill development. The series will highlight one skill per week throughout the baby's first year of life, which a family can easily incorporate into their [child's] daily routine. Toy suggestions will also be provided- to complement the skill that is being featured.
You might be saying, I will enjoy my child as soon as she can sit or talk or run or go to school. Perhaps you think, "babies are not my thing." But they can be when you realize all that your child can and will do. So I say, let's work on one skill at a time, marveling in each new achievement. I promise, it really is amazing.EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-1091375121262981032015-01-01T19:50:00.001-08:002015-01-02T07:00:54.095-08:00Handwriting: Pencil vs. iPadThe debate over the importance of handwriting is looming, as technology is gaining momentum in classrooms and households all over the country. With the increased use of keyboarding and accessibility to information- thanks to the internet, why are students demonstrating increased difficulty learning and recalling important information? And why do more and more students seem to need Occupational Therapy for handwriting problems?
The WSJ article, "<a href="http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748704631504575531932754922518">How Handwriting Boosts the Brain</a>," discusses the importance of the physical act of writing in order to improve fine motor skills, learning letters and shapes (which is necessary for letter recognition), and idea expression and layout. Kids and adults alike reap the benefits of the physical act of handwriting... It is easier to learn new information when you physically sequence a task, using the visual and motoric systems. When I was in OT school at Columbia, it truly helped me to learn the information presented during classes- and in preparation of the Boards- when I wrote it out first.
According to this article, the use of iPads actually mimics handwriting through the touch screen. The user must create the letters- 1 stroke at a time and in sequential order. Using a finger and/or stylus can be just like using a pencil on paper. Through this technology, improvement in the aforementioned skills can be demonstrated- including buzz words such as visual motor (control hand movements with the use of vision) and visual perceptual skills (gathering information through vision and integrating with the other senses).
Although technology can be a wonderful addition for emergent skills- it should not replace "the real thing." Handwriting continues to be an important part of a child's school-aged years. Scribing notes during lessons (including copying directly from the board), taking tests, and completing in-class assignments, as well as communicating ideas, answers, thoughts, greetings, and basically, knowledge to people, are all age-appropriate expectations of students in present-day classrooms. Future requirements of students include the timed composition areas of the SATs. Good handwriting strokes (letter formation) = efficient strokes = faster handwriting...
Analysis of a child's handwriting can also provide clues to developmental problems that potentially hinder classroom learning, as teachers depend on written work in order to measure how well a child is learning. An occupational therapist will look at the following components of handwriting:
Demonstration of correct grasp of a pencil
Spatial concepts (spacing; sizing; orientation to line)
Maintaining posture (core strength and upper extremity stabilization)
Copy of letters/words (near-copy from another piece of paper / far-copy from the chalkboard)
Letter formation
Utilization of appropriate pressure- prevent fatigue
If you have any questions or concerns about your child's handwriting skills, please contact me at julie@etikids.com or by calling 813.856.9449. You can read more about the Helping Hand for Handwriting classes <a href="http://www.etikids.com/handwriting-help.html">here</a>. EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-3555365811435193112014-12-21T12:14:00.001-08:002014-12-21T16:48:48.615-08:00Postitional PlagiocephalyPositional plagiocephaly. Flat head syndrome- due to positioning of the infant on the back for extended periods of time. With the back-to-sleep campaign that began in the early 1990s, many parents became afraid of placing a baby on his/her stomach- and left their infants on their back, in swings, and/or carseats. Has the increase in positional plagiocephaly also caused a rise in developmental delays?
According to a <a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/02/100215081730.htm">2010 study</a> that was published in Science Daily, babies with flat heads may be at a higher risk for cognitive and motor delays. It makes sense- when an infant is always on his/her back, he/she does not receive the proprioceptive input (feeling of where body is in relation to space) or the neck extension (straightening). The child could potentially be delayed in meeting milestones. After all, it is more difficult to attend to a stimulus while on your back (then on your stomach). Additionally, many babies will take longer to learn how to roll, crawl, sit, and stand, as the core muscles will not be strong enough to move against gravity.
As an occupational therapist, I work with many kids that have positional plagiocephaly. During the session, I teach families how to place their babies during waking hours - as well as how to engage them - to prevent worsening of and correct the flat spot. Although pediatricians recommend back-to-sleep, I encourage families to keep babies OFF of their backs (out of the supine position) as much as possible during waking hours.
What can you do? Here are three "quick" suggestions to PREVENT positional plagiocephaly.
<b>TUMMY TIME!</b> I can't say it enough. Although a <a href="http://www.parents.com/baby/development/physical/putting-baby-on-belly/">Tummy Time</a> article on parents.com mentioned to place an infant on his/her stomach beginning "around the 3-4 month mark," I believe it should happen MUCH earlier. You can put your baby on YOUR stomach- after feeding, while he/she is sleeping, and during waking hours during the newborn stage. It is a great way to bond with your baby and can also help with burping! (In all fairness, the article DID mention this.) ***Just be careful until the umbilical cord has fallen off.
<b>Be a switch-hitter!</b> Switch sides in your arms (after every feed) and in the crib (each night)- get your baby comfortable resting his/her head on BOTH sides.
<b>Just because it is made- does not mean it is right for your child.</b> Meaning- just because Bumbo seats, exersaucers, jumpers, walkers, and swings (etc...) are readily available in many, many stores, they are not necessarily appropriate for your child- in his/her current stage of development. Although those items can be great distractions- extended use may NOT be recommended.
It is very scary to be a parent nowadays- I TOTALLY get it. Remember that you are not alone. If your parent instinct tells your that your child may have positional plagiocephaly, speak to your pediatrician. I am also available to lend my expert opinion about positioning and engaging "activities" to do with your baby.
EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-21082411193601308462014-11-23T17:35:00.001-08:002014-11-23T17:35:11.468-08:00Entertaining the Toddler with Fine Motor ActivitiesYou need to entertain your toddler before everything gets destroyed. I get it. I scramble for stimulating activities all of the time, since my super-precocious 2 year-old is always looking for the "next big thing." Seriously, this morning, there was 2 minutes of quiet, while I fed the baby. As I went into MY bedroom (the door had been shut), said 2-year-old came out, holding the toothpaste cap. He was painting on the floor with the toothpaste. *Sigh
That being said: here are the best activities to entertain a toddler- and improve fine motor skills.
1) Chalkboard. GREAT for wrist extension and shoulder stability- two important components to improving fine motor skills. Plus, using chalk is SO much fun! Vary it and take the activity outside- write on the sidewalk/driveway. Begin writing letters- practice with large letters first!
2) WATER TABLE! It is a wonderful sensory activity that also requires balance (reaching, lifting, shifting weight) and fine motor control (control of objects in hand, as well as grasping skills). Practice pouring to/from cups of all sizes, including stackable cups, to develop the concepts of greater than and less than. Improve their play skills as (you) engage them in scenarios by modeling the behavior. Bonus** it is easy to supervise! Bored with the water- use rice or sand instead...
3) Pom pom sorting. By color. By size. With clothespins. With spoons. Talk to them about concepts such as more than and less than.
4) Collage (***With Adult Supervision***). The glue can get messy- but this is a really great way to kill 45 minutes! Rip up paper with different textures into pieces of varying size. Glue on items of all sizes, shapes and color. Perhaps dabble with scissor skills (only with absolute, 100% adult supervision!).
Hopefully this helps. The toddler and I will be collaging tomorrow. As soon as I finish cleaning my bathroom. :)EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-43021468830675609972014-10-14T18:06:00.001-07:002014-10-14T18:06:41.101-07:00Creating a Crawler. Almost. Nature vs. Nurture. You can't always change nature, but you sure can nurture- offer tools to help your kiddo meet milestones and achieve success. My 6-month-old is crawling. Almost. Although he has been army crawling for over a week, yesterday he took four purposeful movements in quadruped position (on all fours!).
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My EtiKid(s) began kicking in utero! I actually have videos of my stomach lurching side to side as the older one kicked as hard as he could -from the inside. That being said, I am an Occupational Therapist and Early Childhood Education Teacher. Having studied a lot of child development, I knew enough about the importance of positioning and environment- giving him with opportunities and motivation to meet success. I did not use hand-over-hand cuing to teach him, but he was provided with a stimulating-enough environment and appropriate positions to foster his development. Although every child develops at his/her own pace and nothing with children is guaranteed, offering developmentally appropriate tools can help your child thrive.
Here are 3 QUICK tips to foster those gross motor skills.
1) Play- Someone was almost always on the floor playing with him. He was read to, shown cause and effect toys, and smiled at throughout the day. Also, there is an older sibling. I made sure that there was a lot of interaction between the two and clearly the baby now wants to be just like his big brother. (PS- big brother began crawling at 6.5 mos- and he was provided with the same "tools," minus the older sibling. *sigh
2) Tummy Time- can't be stressed enough. Some "experts" recommend 30 minutes per day to parents. I did FAR more. Pretty much every waking moment was spent on his stomach or upright in my arms (his middle name is "hold me!").
3) Reaching- While laying on a mat, I put some bright toys that were sure to be his favorite just out of reach. This also helped to improve his grasping skills.
Through our efforts to overcome shoulder dystocia, we created a crawling monster. Almost.
EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-64474919157460813602014-08-30T11:31:00.000-07:002014-09-01T10:49:20.150-07:00What Should We Play With? For Infants, Ages 4-6 MonthsWhat Should We Play With? Part II
Although it has been a while, I have received requests for the next post to be about the best toys for infants, ages 4-6 months. This is one of the hardest stages because your baby is beginning to be mobile but is not quite ready to be seated upright for extended periods of time in exersaucers and such (refer to <a href="http://www.etikids.com/etikids-blog/how-to-know-when-your-infant-is-ready-to-sit-up">this post</a> for more information as to why). Babies at this stage are rapidly developing and becoming more like little people (and much less like little zombies, who primarily want to eat, sleep, be held, and be changed!). Therefore, toys at this stage should be more stimulating, to increase their level of awareness. In addition, toys that work on cause/effect (touch this and lights go on) are important. The following toys can all be found on <a href="http://www.amazon.com">Amazon.com</a>.
<i>Tummy Time Mat</i>
Tummy time is one of the most, if not THE MOST, important positions for this stage of development. See <a href="http://www.etikids.com/etikids-blog/what-should-we-play-with-toys-for-newbornyoung-infant-girls-and-boys">Part I</a> for more information. The <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Deluxe-Lights-Activity/dp/B000067K0L/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1409591103&sr=8-3&keywords=activity+mat+infant">Tiny Love Activity Gym</a> mat is also a favorite, as the lights, sounds, and items to grab while on the back and stomach are stimulating for the babies. In addition, they can practice rolling all over because their are fun things to see at every corner! Sit them up on the mat- have them grab and reach the items that are at shoulder-level... This mat can have many uses! <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1R0ZbKV28mJ1GcH7bxmsGzkGtV8cCSn0jw0rlggaoK2O7vf8ztvMZxG9AJmhnee0_b4vTc2rHmmcXKC_o8oUrMSbqIQeP6hcLL8nut77_XavniiPGDZnJnXhw_uwcgNZMaVc8uDeiv8g/s1600/tummytime+etikids.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1R0ZbKV28mJ1GcH7bxmsGzkGtV8cCSn0jw0rlggaoK2O7vf8ztvMZxG9AJmhnee0_b4vTc2rHmmcXKC_o8oUrMSbqIQeP6hcLL8nut77_XavniiPGDZnJnXhw_uwcgNZMaVc8uDeiv8g/s320/tummytime+etikids.jpg" /></a></div>
<i>Activity Table</i>
This <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Laugh-Learn-Friends-Musical/dp/B00CQHZ0H8/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1409421016&sr=8-3&keywords=activity+table+babies">Fisher Price table</a> is a great example of the type of toy to give your growing infant. The legs can be modified accordingly to allow the baby to access the various components of the table while in tummy time, on the side, seated, and standing. This activity table has room to grow with your baby - and you will notice that he/she will play differently with the table throughout various stages of development (rolling, sitting, crawling, walking). <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8MeQWb4M4U04fFFwLv2kc5fkB8Slx9omn0kvJdhCvLBgGttueQ-2jtoAf8rhYKzh7sp8O2GhA97EMTPQDjhrnstlqDzM58rlx_Zi7VyULAfTWvBpgCC2mzEPaSuOdbQfvG2nfF5zPu_s/s1600/activity+table+etikids.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8MeQWb4M4U04fFFwLv2kc5fkB8Slx9omn0kvJdhCvLBgGttueQ-2jtoAf8rhYKzh7sp8O2GhA97EMTPQDjhrnstlqDzM58rlx_Zi7VyULAfTWvBpgCC2mzEPaSuOdbQfvG2nfF5zPu_s/s320/activity+table+etikids.jpg" /></a></div>
<i>Activity Bars </i>
Your child is working on grabbing, pulling, and pushing. Keep your child busy on walks or long car rides with this <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Manhattan-Toy-Whoozit-Activity-Stroller/dp/B0001Y7H2Y/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1409592415&sr=8-5&keywords=activity+bar">activity bar</a>! This is also a great way to have your child practice sitting up... <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5sS7dnYJ-J2aWYo7-IUTFbO1PDrPw_RHNlJWKybhjh-StGEFB2LAXcTY4acsNtO4BF0eaSVs8W6l6z2h-1EEgKME_-A0PHdwBHAKyQFkx7nazqj1FOFyeUS8PeLrzPlIhOvY4lyrzhQo/s1600/etikids+activity+bar.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg5sS7dnYJ-J2aWYo7-IUTFbO1PDrPw_RHNlJWKybhjh-StGEFB2LAXcTY4acsNtO4BF0eaSVs8W6l6z2h-1EEgKME_-A0PHdwBHAKyQFkx7nazqj1FOFyeUS8PeLrzPlIhOvY4lyrzhQo/s320/etikids+activity+bar.jpg" /></a></div>
<i>Board Books</i>
Touch and feel board books are my favorite for babies this age! Aside from beginning to see words, large pictures and feel textures, they are easy to clean and begin to teach babies how to turn pages (left to right). The books also offer entertainment when seated in tummy time and ensure that you are focusing attention on your baby (after all, who doesn't like attention!?!?!). This book of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Animals-Baby-Touch-Feel-Publishing/dp/0756634687/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1409593306&sr=8-2&keywords=touch+and+feel+board+books">baby animals</a> was/is a favorite of my <a href="http://www.etikids.com">EtiKids</a>! They love to hear and make the sounds of the animals! <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgWQgYxY9u8N6MCl0n5MrmebULU5_-Ee_bS65SQA6LmLhWPHJbaElzoVFyivUDKpJS1QfwEZM6c-khpfO1DnP8Pfbz-2Lq2q8mhlRFXi6rgU31vvDBlUteRLJQieu5MM9T91bBdViTxB90/s1600/touch+and+feel+etikids.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgWQgYxY9u8N6MCl0n5MrmebULU5_-Ee_bS65SQA6LmLhWPHJbaElzoVFyivUDKpJS1QfwEZM6c-khpfO1DnP8Pfbz-2Lq2q8mhlRFXi6rgU31vvDBlUteRLJQieu5MM9T91bBdViTxB90/s320/touch+and+feel+etikids.jpg" /></a></div>EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-89350534958335297252014-08-23T10:28:00.002-07:002014-08-24T17:59:48.493-07:00How To: Know When Your Infant is Ready to Sit Up<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSde4t4F1xtx_S8tNpsLE4gBKNXbctg_Kuyntr-EPVecCl13nu375sjSzNm36C0VHlrdqbjCa9J0Clj_zz4slSPjeNBzqoCCQlvwXnvXTW5cMA79iSnM4Pn-9BSHDcs5P0Udrc_qHy12Y/s1600/EtiKids.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiSde4t4F1xtx_S8tNpsLE4gBKNXbctg_Kuyntr-EPVecCl13nu375sjSzNm36C0VHlrdqbjCa9J0Clj_zz4slSPjeNBzqoCCQlvwXnvXTW5cMA79iSnM4Pn-9BSHDcs5P0Udrc_qHy12Y/s400/EtiKids.jpg" /></a></div>
A mother in one of my Mom-groups on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/EtiKids/107334175962898">Facebook</a> recently posed a question- regarding the positioning of her daughter. While in daycare, her 3-month-old was seated upright in a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Bumbo-B10056-Floor-Seat-Blue/dp/B0092NNQ98">Bumbo</a> seat with toys placed on a tray in front of her. While many parents agreed that it was ok to do so in order to prepare the infant for sitting upright, the OT (Occupational Therapist) in me said otherwise. This now leads me to the age-old question: When is it ok to start sitting up a baby?
My response was/is: An OT is primarily concerned with the positioning of the child to help him/her improve all domains of development and meet milestones. At the infant stage, appropriate positioning will foster increased socialization skills and awareness by simultaneously developing strength. This will also enable the baby to maintain positions for extended periods of time. Skipping the important steps/milestones may actually delay your child's development!
At 3 months of age, most babies do not have consistent head/neck control, as bobbing is frequently seen. To foster this skill, caregivers should gradually reduce the amount of support provided while holding the baby. For example, instead of supporting the head/neck with the whole hand- try using only fingers. Additionally, until a baby has developed very strong spinal muscles, they should not be placed in Bumbo seats or upright on Boppy pillows for too long. If there is curvature of the spine (and you can seen the vertebrae sticking out)or leaning to the side, the baby is not ready to sit by him/herself. <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtY1eSHsAK6LX2cA27T3olt45QtHYUEbhe7BIBdee2X_f65pyM0XJLBnlj-t6R0ZFFh7ruHDNgaExfwbzGM5SOLLyOTAAAz6yWfE_huA-92POLjxl3il_G7t3Ej3Np27_rQ23NuEjhMd8/s1600/Unknown.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtY1eSHsAK6LX2cA27T3olt45QtHYUEbhe7BIBdee2X_f65pyM0XJLBnlj-t6R0ZFFh7ruHDNgaExfwbzGM5SOLLyOTAAAz6yWfE_huA-92POLjxl3il_G7t3Ej3Np27_rQ23NuEjhMd8/s320/Unknown.jpeg" /></a></div>
In her blog, <a href="http://www.janetlansbury.com/2012/04/sitting-babies-up-the-downside/">Janet Lansbury</a> writes that sitting babies in restrictive seats (exersaucer, infant seats, and jumpers) for extended periods of time will potentially cause your child to skip important milestones such as rolling and crawling! The belief of MANY parents is that these items are helpful for parenting (providing opportunities to shower and such). As with much of the equipment for babies, they should be used in moderation.
Tummy time with toys placed in front of the child would be more appropriate at this stage to increase head/neck development, strengthen the extensor (straightening) muscles of the spine, increase grip/fine motor skills and continue to increase awareness of the environment that surrounds him/her. Placing the toys in front and around the baby will foster rotation and mobility, which will help the child learn to roll over and eventually crawl. Additionally, your child will receive more proprioceptive sensory input, which teaches about his/her body in space. But that being said- it is not an age thing so much as developmental. If your child has great head/neck control, the spine is extended (straight) when sitting up (while you hold her), and the baby can maintain an upright posture- go for it! EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-1855738687342861232014-01-01T09:47:00.001-08:002014-01-01T10:10:04.743-08:00What Should We Play With? Toys for Newborn/Young Infant Girls and BoysDo you ever wonder what toys to get for your newborn child - or perhaps another newborn/infant within your circle of friends? Although this list would probably have been helpful a month ago, it is never too late to plan for next year (or perhaps an upcoming birthday)!
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<b>For the 0-3 Month Crowd:</b>
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<b>Rattles</b> - Anything that can make some noise as the baby kicks and flails while on his/her back. This is how your child will begin to develop an awareness of his/her body. With straps are great for playtime, but do not be afraid to give them ones to hold! Grasping objects in their hands will help develop their sense of proprioception (body in space). This one can be found through <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Lamaze-Garden-Wrist-Rattle-Finder/dp/B000I2Q0C2/ref=sr_1_4?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1388597068&sr=1-4&keywords=rattles">Amazon</a>. It is a little bright - but the concept is correct. Keep in mind that your newborn sees the world in black, white and red at first. Don't put the bright colors up to their faces immediately.
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<b>Mobiles</b> - attached wherever the baby plays- just be sure that the baby is not looking behind the head. Place it above the chest but not too low (no grabbing!). Slow moving with simple images to increase focus. A great way to practice tracking of objects! My advice - limit usage in the crib. As we are try to orient baby to day vs. night times, we want to encourage SLEEPING in the crib. We used this one. You can find it on <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Classic-Developmental-Mobile/dp/B00DJQOREC/ref=sr_1_6?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1388596187&sr=1-6&keywords=mobiles+for+cribs">Amazon</a>.
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<b>Mirrors</b> - Really great for helping your child to develop facial recognition. Some of the first smiles you see may be when your child is watching him/herself in the mirror. My own <a href="http://www.etikids.com">EtiKids</a> loved this mirror, as it was very versatile. We used it for tummy time and while playing with "overhead" toys. We did not use it in the crib because it was very important for him to learn that cribs are for sleeping (also for my own sanity!). We purchased this one from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Sassy-Crib-and-Floor-Mirror/dp/B002J4U8M0/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1388597203&sr=1-1&keywords=mirror+toys+for+baby">Amazon</a>.
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<b>Tummy Time Mat</b> - As mentioned in previous posts, placing your baby on his/her tummy will increase proprioception, awareness, and social skills, as well as head and neck control. Additionally, it will help prepare your child for other developmental skills, including sitting, crawling, and walking! I used <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Kick-Play-Piano-Discover/dp/B00CWN3FNM/ref=sr_1_12?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1388597697&sr=1-12&keywords=tummy+time+activity+center">THIS MAT</a> for my <a href="http://www.etikids.com">EtiKids</a>. I felt that this encouraged a sense of awareness of the entire body, thanks to the addition of the piano. When the babies seemed to need a change of scenery (after playing with the animals), I turned them around to make music with the piano. I also attached the mirror (seen above), so the kiddos could look at themselves in action.
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This post begins the series of What Should We Play With? Stay tuned for more developmentally appropriate toys through the ages. As always, it is important to get down on the floor and play with your newborn- it is never too early to begin modeling social skills!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-73662154568796870452013-10-27T11:57:00.002-07:002013-10-28T05:37:21.964-07:00Raising My Advanced EtiKid<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjuJ1X8Io_ER2zxUJ0DzygWxl1rd2A7_5Mp7kVKOnZsVOYu3J2hBzaXhAqnUMvRNQb5Uverms2kZjS8YoASyLgQP68q_7K81NnQ0VTEkMGhcOCP2fci5qvgd6WcTLEUxwsQFqh6ct0cvg/s1600/Unknown.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhjuJ1X8Io_ER2zxUJ0DzygWxl1rd2A7_5Mp7kVKOnZsVOYu3J2hBzaXhAqnUMvRNQb5Uverms2kZjS8YoASyLgQP68q_7K81NnQ0VTEkMGhcOCP2fci5qvgd6WcTLEUxwsQFqh6ct0cvg/s400/Unknown.jpeg" /></a></div>
My son started crawling at 6 1/2 months and walking at 10 1/2 months. Although that is no small feat, I am even more excited (and proud!) that he is extremely social and loves to interact with other people. I am WELL aware that most of his abilities are due to nature (he was very active in the womb, frequently causing the need for repeat ultrasounds!). I will say that I did recognize signs that he was ready and provided him with opportunities that encouraged him to develop his skills. As I have friends asking me what I have done to promote his development, I thought I would share some tips (not just as a parent but from an <a href="http://www.aota.org">Occupational Therapist's perspective</a>).
1) TUMMY TIME! From the time he was born, I would hold him across my arms or on my lap on his belly. Once he got a little older (2-3 months), I placed him onto a mat on the floor- on his tummy. He definitely did not like it at first, but I always started floor time in this position. Toys that made noise were placed in front of him - encouraging him to extend his tolerance of tummy time. This helped him to get a sense of his body in space, as he received a lot of sensory input from his stomach and arms being on the floor. It also helped him learn to lift his head and upper torso off of the ground, promoting neck extension (straightening). He became more aware of himself and his surroundings once he was able to look at objects and happenings around him. <a href="http://www.parents.com/baby/development/physical/putting-baby-on-belly/">Sheryl Berk from Parents Magazine has additional tips for Tummy Time</a>.
2) Lots of playtime... Many people mistakingly believe that a child who doesn't move can be left alone on the mat. I feel that it is even more important to engage, talk to, read to, and just generally sit on the floor with the infant. As a parent, OT, and child development specialist, this time is especially formative in a baby's life. Demonstrate how to use toys and give the infant the freedom to explore the objects as well. Make sure that the toy is "developmentally appropriate" (more about that to come in future posts). Additionally - just because a toy is in the store does not always mean that it is right for your child. Use your gut instinct. If that is not working at the moment- perhaps due to extreme sleep deprivation, <a href="http://www.etikids.com">call/email me</a>.
3) Model social behavior - your baby is NEVER too young to learn social interactions. Smile, respond to their sounds, and use LOTS of language to foster their own speech communication skills. Providing and modeling interactions as soon as possible can only help the child learn how to engage with others. The more engaging a baby is, the more likely others will respond to him/her.
4) Be consistent. It is definitely too early for punitive measures. However, after 6+ months, a child can begin to learn safe vs. unsafe. Redirection is the BEST method for preventing unwanted behaviors. Yes it is exhausting, but it will make it easier to raise a polite little person in the not-so-distant future. For example, when my child wants to play with electric outlets (he looks at me and smiles as he touches them because HE KNOWS HE SHOULD NOT BE NEAR THEM!), I immediately say (in a stern voice), "Not safe." I then redirect his attention to his toys (on the other side of the room), and sit with him as we build the simple blocks or read a book.
This list can go on and on (I will share more tips in coming weeks).
I firmly believe in the adage that it "takes a village to raise a child." Therefore, I am sharing my wisdom as an Occupational Therapist (and parent!) and welcome any other tips you may have. Of course, if you have any questions, you can <a href="http://www.etikids.com/about-etikids.html">call me or email me</a>.
I look forward to hearing more stories about your own <a href="http://www.etikids.com">EtiKids</a>!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-60110531994043482492013-09-18T19:05:00.000-07:002013-09-18T19:11:05.278-07:00Explaining Society's Sad Face to KidsIn "<a href="http://www.cnn.com/2013/09/17/living/parents-dc-moms-talking-to-kids-tragedy/index.html?iid=article_sidebar">Talking to kids about D.C. Navy Yard shootings a tough task for parents</a>" on <a href="http://cnn.com">CNN.com</a>, <a href="http://www.cnn.com/SPECIALS/living/cnn-parents">Kelly Wallace</a> discusses the terrifying task of speaking to children after a well-publicized tragedy. The debate looms: to talk about it or not...
If my three cents are worth anything: consider your child. You are the parent and you know best... Buuuut, is there a chance that your child is going to hear it from someone else? If so, go on the offensive and share the information that you want your child to hear. Once your kid has the facts from you, the trusted parent, the big bad world will seem less scary. Maybe. Reassurance will be needed, but you can handle it.
Tips to get you through.
1. Stick to the facts. The most basic ones.
2. Limit the information that they will hear. News stations playing in the background throughout the day is not the best choice if you do not want your child reciting the exact number of bullets used.
3. Be proactive- think of a SOLUTION to help. After Hurricane Sandy, Sandy Hook Elementary, and the Boston Marathon Bombing, communities organized clothing drives and collected funds for the victims. Slogans such as <a href="http://www.njstrong.net">Jersey Strong</a> and <a href="https://secure.onefundboston.org">Boston Strong</a> were displayed on clothing with pride. Perhaps you can help your child think of a way to assist the victims. This will demonstrate that this is how the human race survives: we come together during the most terrible times and lean on each other for support.
And maybe... Remind your children that smiles, eye contact, please and thank you are just as important now - in order to help make this world a friendlier place.
EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-41615801861739170872012-05-23T10:01:00.000-07:002012-05-23T10:11:45.929-07:00Teachable Moments<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Social skills are the building blocks to a preschool education. While children may learn letters, numbers, shapes and even the beginning stages of reading, it is here that they develop the most important skill of all: social relations. Children learn these skills through observations of others, including parents, friends, and relatives. As children need frequent reminders of appropriate social behaviors in the early stages of making a learned behavior seem innate, they may require assistance from you. Fellow occupational therapists and teachers like to use the term: Teachable Moments.
A teachable moment is unscripted and unplanned. When the grownup is observing the child/children engaged in play, an opportunity may arise to positively redirect the negative behaviors or reward desired behaviors. By helping the child/children recreate the scene and identify what was correct vs. what could be changed, you are helping them develop awareness of their own pro-social behaviors.
For example, Henry is playing with blocks in the middle of the floor. Charlie is in the corner with his favorite puzzle. Once completed, Charlie puts away the puzzle and sits down in front of Henry’s castle and says, “That’s a big building. Can I play blocks with you?” Henry quickly responds, “You are stupid, it’s a castle!” Dejected and angry, Charlie walks away, accidentally tripping on the rug and causing the demise of the castle. Henry starts screaming and crying. The teacher has observed the entire episode and sits the two boys down to discuss the incident. They review classroom rules, how words can hurt and apologies are made.
Although the boys are upset, Henry learns that calling people “ugly names” – or using the “S” words are not acceptable social behaviors. With the teacher’s guidance, he recognizes that hurting someone’s feelings makes everyone sad. Charlie learns that you can let someone know you are angry without damaging property.
To redirect attention and enhance social skills, the teacher presents the boys with a book to to share about different types of buildings. A castle is a building and there are many types of buildings: big, small, commercial, castles, high-rise condominiums and offices. As the next activity begins, the boys decide they will try to build the biggest building in the world!
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To make the most of a teachable moment:</b>
1. Listen more and speak less. Observe behaviors and listen to conversation before jumping to conclusion and interfering in children’s activities. If there is no danger, allow the children to resolve their issue without intervention.
2. Following the incident, offer praise for using their best manners to resolve differences and not hurting anyone’s feelings.
3. Trust children to mirror the behaviors they see. Patience, kindness, respect and understanding can make a difference in the way people are perceived.
In <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> classes, teachable moments are used because they are the most meaningful to the child. If you have any questions about how to incorporate this method into your daily parenting routine, please do not hesitate to contact <a href="http://www.julieblacker.com/">Julie</a>.
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Teachpreschool.org</a> has even more examples of teachable moments for you to check out!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-27703086130111044172011-06-20T10:00:00.000-07:002019-01-21T21:21:17.243-08:00Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire<br />Liar -- Liar Pants on Fire…..<br />It’s a familiar child rhyme originating from a poem by <a href="http://uncyclopedia.wikia.com/wiki/Liar_Liar_Pants_on_Fire">William Blake</a>.<br /><br /><br />“Deceiver, dissembler -Your trousers are alight<br />From what pole or gallows -Shall they dangle in the night?...”<br /><br /><br />While we are not exactly sure what pants on fire has to do with lying, it springs up in play when one child accuses another of lying. Today’s society offers many examples, such as doctors giving vague prognosis, politicians making campaign promises, and family members providing other "reasons" for tardiness at the family dinner. <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> is here to shed light on a not-so-positive social skill that continually re-emerges throughout history... The preschooler and the tall-tales. Yes, the start of school often causes many false stories to emerge from our favorite little friends. Although seemingly amusing when a three-year-old does it, it is not so funny when that same person does it twenty years later. <br /><br />Fact: Preschoolers have great imaginations. However, in their fantasy worlds, it becomes difficult to transition between real-life and make-believe. There is no doubt in their minds that "a monster did it."<br /><br />For some, the imaginary friend, Jennifer or Jack, is involved in mischievous capers. Wet pants, spilled juice or missed cookies are always Jenny’s fault. A few weeks ago, when a dangling ceiling-fan pull broke, a mini family member swiftly claimed, “I didn’t do it! It just happened!"<br /> <br />Lying is a behavior that all children will try at some period in their lives. If one is lucky, it is attempted at an early age and quickly discouraged. The most important tool a parent can use is to react appropriately and set a positive example for the child. A loving and trusting relationship can begin as early as preschool age. <br /><br />In the Kaboose.com article, <a href="http://parenting.kaboose.com/behavior/issues/why-kids-lie.html">Why Kids Lie (and How You Can Encourage Honesty) by Deborah Bohn</a>, <a href="http://www.micheleborba.com/">Dr. Michele Borba</a>, a nationally renowned educator and author of <span style="font-style:italic;">Building Moral Intelligence: The Seven Essential Virtues that Teach Kids to Do the Right Thing</span>, describes this behavior as "wishful thinking." She reminds parents that three-year-olds don't think the same way that adults do, and they ACTUALLY WISH that someone else broke your favorite lamp!<br /><br />Some tips for when your munchkin looks up at you with enormous brown eyes and says, “I saw the little mouse knock over the cookie jar, and it broke.”<br /><br />1. With a positive response, let the child know the truth is appreciated, offer a warm hug and smile; and then assist in the clean-up of the mess. As it is merely wishful thinking, it is important to address the child calmly. <a href="http://parenting.kaboose.com/behavior/issues/why-kids-lie.html">Dr. Borba</a> would even ask the child if he/she wishes that a little mouse would have broken the cookie jar.<br /><br />2. Avoid asking the obvious question, Did you break this lamp with the soccer ball? This provides a child with the perfect opportunity to lie. While they are standing amidst the shattered ruins of a lamp, ball in hand, one can say, “I see the lamp is broken. We do not play ball inside the house. Please get a dust pan and broom. No more ball playing today.” As a grownup, it is possible to set limits without punitive measures. <br /><br />3. Finally, set an example as a role model. Children learn by modeled behavior, and they are mindful of all habits good and bad. Lying to a spouse about the price of a new power tool or the purchase of another pair of shoes sets a double standard that children do not understand. If a child consistently tells fibs, it is often helpful to think about what behaviors a child may be observing in and out of the home. <br /><br />Lying is not a virtue worth keeping and can be stopped. Preschool children are not in positions to discriminate good lies from bad ones; therefore, it is helpful to <span style="font-weight:bold;">be consistent</span>. Starting early sets into motion the idea of positive and negative behavior. Most important, it creates a solid foundation for a trusting relationship in the family. <br /><br />As always, <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> is here to help. If your tall-tale-teller (say that 5 times, fast!) is way too inventive, contact us for more information on how to positively reinforce good behavior!<br /><br />And for conversation purposes: What was the most crafty excuse that your child invented? How was it handled?EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-70745139937913108372011-06-07T18:03:00.000-07:002011-06-07T18:17:36.356-07:00Divorce vs. Child<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRAu9hzkFps_qT7EZqKUHQQSVdLLagcUYwIp3l4wEq0D3U70t8NcC49QvFFRr1XRZO04V4pLG97XaqiYJU4POBrGYT0SuU3t94T1H55hUM42ny0QKlKIRamUGeFZ65ER0PI26tz1g3PDQ/s1600/Divorce+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 212px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRAu9hzkFps_qT7EZqKUHQQSVdLLagcUYwIp3l4wEq0D3U70t8NcC49QvFFRr1XRZO04V4pLG97XaqiYJU4POBrGYT0SuU3t94T1H55hUM42ny0QKlKIRamUGeFZ65ER0PI26tz1g3PDQ/s320/Divorce+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5615651592555195810" /></a><br />Research has been done about divorce and its effect on children’s development for quite some time. Although this article seems to relate to common sense, it was a surprise to find out that children are most susceptible to "side effects" of the separation during and after the divorce. Even more interesting was that math scores and social skills are those most affected by the unfortunate situation. The article, "<a href="http://ibnlive.in.com/news/children-of-divorced-lack-in-maths-social-skills/156201-19.html">Children of divorced lack in math, social skills</a>" by Reuters cites time split between parents, psychological impairments (such as depression and anxiety), and parents not spending enough time with their children as reasons for the diminishing of these pertinent skills. It discusses how children are becoming increasingly more anxious and unable to focus on the tasks at hand. In today’s society, which still has an incredibly high rate of divorce among parents, this information can hopefully lead to some changes for the greater good of children. Rather than focus on what is not being done, it is important to recognize behaviors that can be changed immediately:<br /><br />1) Make a schedule with children present, so they know when they will be spending time with each parent. By involving children in the process, they will feel more in control and comfortable with the situation as they will be able to predict the changes in routine. <br /><br />2) Help them establish new routines in each house- and stick with them. Although divorce seems like a reason to never speak again, it is important to communicate (amicably) about the child. Attempting to create similar structures and routines in each house will help children feel safe in both locations.<br /><br />3) Keep a notebook of school assignments. Each parent should be responsible for reading it. Ask the child’s teacher to contribute as well, so everyone can have information about the child. This will help all responsible parties monitor areas that are potentially becoming problematic. <br /><br />4) Make sure to eat meals with together with the child. Meal time is a great way to model appropriate social skills (eye contact, table manners, reciprocal conversation). By setting the expectation that positive social behaviors should be used always, the child will begin to utilize them in situations in and out of the home. It is important to be consistent and reinforce the social skills as often as possible! <br /><br />5) Nobody ever wins in divorce, but the children do not have to be the biggest losers of all. Through the use of these techniques, the child can continue to develop without negatively impact the cognitive and social growth. Contact <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> for more information.EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-11684086023441587992011-06-06T18:58:00.001-07:002011-06-06T19:19:10.714-07:00We're Baa-aaack!!!Ok, ok, we know it's been a quite a while.<br /><a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> blogs haven't been able to make you smile.<br />We've missed you tons and couldn't stay away.<br />We're back to give tips on using manners every day.<br /><br />Social skills are important as kids get older- even more than before.<br />They will help your child be leaders in the classroom, on the playground, and on a school tour! <br />The summer has just started, so it is time to prepare.<br />Help your child succeed and show them you care.<br /><br />Before next school year starts with a bang- <br />Let <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> help teach social skills to your gang!<br />So contact us with stories, comments or questions-<br />We are always hear to listen to and share suggestions.<br /><br />Looking forward for what's to come, be prepared to hear a lot.<br />Just remember... It is not too early to teach your tot!<br /><br />Fondly, <br />Julie and Co.EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-6311211884516856872011-02-19T10:06:00.000-08:002011-02-19T10:21:41.535-08:00Good Sports...<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNfi_SHEy8zYTxB-LBBWsdd_Nq-o8qI9IhC0E12pcYk0nhELw8A52k4OYVbGW1jsEOmVu-XKh_9B6R2UYi7AwYP7Phj460i-8dVVdnwogRLBB76XPVxX4qGUH6WOFC3XksTlw_7SbL9TY/s1600/Cheating+EtiKids.gif"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNfi_SHEy8zYTxB-LBBWsdd_Nq-o8qI9IhC0E12pcYk0nhELw8A52k4OYVbGW1jsEOmVu-XKh_9B6R2UYi7AwYP7Phj460i-8dVVdnwogRLBB76XPVxX4qGUH6WOFC3XksTlw_7SbL9TY/s320/Cheating+EtiKids.gif" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5575467514193899042" /></a><br />Good Sportsmanship On and Off the Field…<br /><br />“You cheated.” “Did not!” “Did too!” “Did not!” “Did too!” The biting words are common, endless and universal. Usually viewed during an exchange between children on the playing field, one can easily transfer a similar outburst years later in an adult setting (such as a boardroom). Often the stakes are greater and can lead to dangerous accusations and severe consequences. When is a game so much more than a game? <br /><br />While there are many forms of cheating, none of them are acceptable. Breaking of rules intentionally or unintentionally for one’s benefit is not a tolerable behavior. The violation can be specific to a game or a more subjective breach of societal norms, customs, values, ethical and moral standards. Permitting the conduct to continue sends a message of acceptance while encouraging the formation of a negative pattern of behavior. <br /><br />Cheating is not good at 5, 15, or 55 years of age. Sally bamboozles during a game of <a href="http://www.hasbro.com/games/en_US/candyland/">Candyland</a> without penalty. Johnny secretly deceives while playing cards. Later, both feel that cheating on exams or homework is okay since no one is hurt. Sally is later surprised when she is fired from her job for not providing the proper services for clients, and Johnny is appalled to be fined by the IRS for inconsistencies on his tax return. <br /><br />Overlooking the negative behavior from a preschooler lets them believe it is all right. <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a>' curriculum is based on a standard of integrity and quality. Children are expected to be truthful and display sportsmanship. Fostering the social skills that will make them functional members of society comes with practice and expectations. These can be cultivated using a few helpful hints. <br /><br /> 1. Learn the rules of the game. Children’s games have rules to follow; adults follow the culture of an institution or customs of a society. Teach children how the game is played. Focus on good behaviors, sharing, listening and playing fair.<br /><br /> 2. Learn from mistakes and provide opportunity to do better by practicing. The blame game makes teammates feel bad. Think of how the situation could be avoided and a better way of accomplishing the goal. <br /><br /> 3. Learn to lose graciously. There are winners and losers in every game. Losing provides valuable lessons for all. After all, there is always next time...<br /><br /> 4. Be polite on and off the field, in and out of work or home. Leave the whining for babies. Showing off is not necessary. Good players are recognized and respected even more for setting a positive example. Trash talk is just that… garbage for the can! <br /><br /> 5. Point out the positive. Catch children at their best! Children naturally want to please their parents. Recognize actions that emphasize good moral values and judgment. Simultaneously, it is good to express disapproval of unacceptable conduct; be careful to focus the remark on the behavior, not the child him/herself. <br /><br />The grownups need to model the behavior for kids. Teaching children to play fairly in the sandbox now will be extremely helpful for them once they grow up. After all, imagine a world filled with love, truth and mutual respect. The dream can become a reality if the kids learn it now.EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-59189104898018793962011-02-05T08:37:00.000-08:002011-02-05T08:54:12.257-08:00Please Sneeze Into Your Sleeve<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQIi4PE1vV6NGNDVRE7BBT4nIJ3cHAADcHyITXGtUeFlMHFagSTCespdu5rfxpVlWmbuLBizZf-JD1BRw0npQK8CQVmDA7YPsSC5fqNr0mD6dy3PQwxqblRCDkmdnhyphenhyphenrq-v5c-tO00vgA/s1600/sneezing-EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQIi4PE1vV6NGNDVRE7BBT4nIJ3cHAADcHyITXGtUeFlMHFagSTCespdu5rfxpVlWmbuLBizZf-JD1BRw0npQK8CQVmDA7YPsSC5fqNr0mD6dy3PQwxqblRCDkmdnhyphenhyphenrq-v5c-tO00vgA/s320/sneezing-EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5570248656535924386" /></a><br />Winter brings colds, runny noses, sneezes and coughs. Too few layers<br />outside, lots of clothing for inside, too much heat on in the room and insufficient warmth all raise the chance of becoming chilled and catching a bug! Stress, lack of sleep, holiday overindulgence and viral exposure may increase the odds that a cold will develop. While it may not be possible to live in a sterile environment, there are ways to minimize the damage and not further the virus chain!<br /><br />An <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> favorite, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Because-Little-Ka-Choo-Beginner-Books/dp/0394831306/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1296923970&sr=8-1">Because a Little Bug Went Ka-Choo!</a> by Rosetta Stone is a reminder of how easily something as small as the sneeze of an insect can have a greater impact. “You may not believe it, but here’s how it happened. One fine summer morning… a little bug sneezed…..” <br /><br />There is no need to pass along the germs that can cause a cold or worse yet, the flu. <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/">The Center for Disease Control</a> highlights the importance of making sure the mouth and nose are covered when sneezing or coughing so infectious droplets stay clear of the mouths or noses of nearby people. To lessen the chances of becoming sick or passing an illness on to someone else, the following suggestions can be added to your list of good health manners to remember:<br /><br />1. Throw used tissues into the garbage, safely out of reach of an innocent passerby.<br />Keep soiled tissues off the counter, desk or any other surface readily accessible and easily contaminated.<br /><br />2. Use an upper sleeve or elbow when tissues are unavailable. <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> teaches children to cough or sneeze into their sleeve. A <a href="http://www.cdc.gov/germstopper/work.htm">CDC</a> publication states, “Germs are often spread when a person touches something that is contaminated with germs and then touches his or her eyes, nose, or mouth”.<br /><br />3. Wash hands often. Use soap and water to wash hands vigorously for at least 20<br />seconds. Sing the alphabet or birthday song to estimate the time. Hand sanitizers are a<br />handy substitute in the absence of soap and water.<br /><br />4. Don’t share if you care! Like a secret, personal items like a toothbrush, glass or eating utensils are best kept to oneself.<br /><br />5. Stay home. The easiest way to transmit a cold is close contact with others such as at work or in school.<br /><br />Winter time keeps more people indoors in closer contact. Be vigilant and mindful of<br />others with lower levels of resistance. Social skills includes good health habits too! Be cheerful and stay healthy!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-75700706496047615152011-01-17T09:03:00.000-08:002011-01-22T15:22:15.209-08:00Etiquette with Food Allergies<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiG8O5ysHZ6gAQfY9Za0IpG5oW0xkL17nKaxgz8Zqsjef8ilTDh5rFB-U_rV6i8bOtY0-ZCZ8MtzqZokKZtfWumP_EBeOjFAUHHV0V9Mu7gp412_6x5C4zNskR1dHq-NffUoEyAynkaSrQ/s1600/food-allergies+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 209px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiG8O5ysHZ6gAQfY9Za0IpG5oW0xkL17nKaxgz8Zqsjef8ilTDh5rFB-U_rV6i8bOtY0-ZCZ8MtzqZokKZtfWumP_EBeOjFAUHHV0V9Mu7gp412_6x5C4zNskR1dHq-NffUoEyAynkaSrQ/s320/food-allergies+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5563209313684398274" /></a><br />Food allergies are becoming more common in society, as better medical tests are able to identify the source of a person's discomfort. Although they are more prevalent, the person with the "ailment" needs to become his/her own advocate in order to ensure that surrounding foods can be eaten. It might seem an uncomfortable situation to announce that anything with peanuts cannot be consumed at the dinner table, but it is better to refuse a food than go into <a href="http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=10092">anaphylactic shock</a>. As a host or considerate citizen, there are several things that a person can do to prepare for such challenges ahead of time:<br /><br />1) When inviting guests to a dinner party, ask invitees ahead of time if anyone suffers from <a href="http://www.foodallergy.org/">food allergies</a> (peanuts, sesame, gluten, dairy, eggs -to name a few). Those with eating difficulties will be thrilled that they will be able to participate in the meal without having to worry. <br /><br />2) If a person with the allergy offers to bring an allergy-free food to the party, don't hesitate to accept the offer. That way, the person knows what is in the food and won't get sick, and others will have the opportunity to sample a new dish!<br /> <br />3) It is alright to ask about the allergy. For example, a person with <a href="http://www.celiac.org/">Celiac Disease</a> is oftentimes extremely happy to share details about the allergy/disease, as it raises awareness of the problem. Every question is a good question!<br /><br />4) Consult with <a href="http://www.ecookbooks.com/p-9507-allergy-free-cookbook.aspx">cookbooks</a> or online recipes for easy meals that are allergy-free. It is a win/win situation, as new foods get to be sampled and everyone can eat!<br /><br />5) Ask before eating suspect foods in front of others- especially children. So many children have severe peanut/nut allergies and can suffer from a serious allergy attack if they touch something contaminated then stick their fingers in their mouth.<br /><br />Eating in front of children can be a difficult situation, as they often do not fully understand their "ailment." When participating in an event with kids, consider all allergies that a child might have and potential alternative snacks. At <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a>, we recognize that this is a challenge, so we often try to provide two choices: fruit and vegetables. Dips are often provided as well, so the kids can experiment with healthy snacks in a way that can work for everyone. Best of all, no one is left out of the fun!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-665725142860733842011-01-12T18:57:00.000-08:002011-01-12T19:07:47.191-08:00Cell Phones and Manners<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHYNLS80Aaa9fw5w-5xDijKjGISTmMF38-u18zG72oZTiuQF0JQIXYqb1B2POyTQyyQ_SYDUS31X5zt-igFGiiNmeOw2gdTJlXwy6580gWM917ijOU-NwMVMPdLkTYuJs9QjeNyykI8co/s1600/cell+phone+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 212px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjHYNLS80Aaa9fw5w-5xDijKjGISTmMF38-u18zG72oZTiuQF0JQIXYqb1B2POyTQyyQ_SYDUS31X5zt-igFGiiNmeOw2gdTJlXwy6580gWM917ijOU-NwMVMPdLkTYuJs9QjeNyykI8co/s320/cell+phone+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5561501115269895250" /></a><br />They are everywhere… No longer just a means of communication, they have often become appendages that cover ears. Found all over the world, they vary in size, width, color and shape. Some have bling, others sing and almost everyone will ring! Yes, the cell phone is here to stay. <br /><br />Holiday cell phone gifts must have been on the rise. People were checking and texting at the movies. A wedding was the location for individuals glancing at sports scores and online searches to bide time until the conclusion of the ceremony. The dinner table took on a special ambiance as phones rang and conversations ensued. Laps were the area of visual focus for <a href="http://twitter.com/#!/EtiKidsNYC">twitters, tweeters</a> and <a href="http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/pages/EtiKids/107334175962898">Facebook</a> addicts in the family room. There was the woman yelling into the phone at her sister in the department store. The car became a prime place for filler-time conversations. With such widespread use and availability, are what constitutes proper cell phone etiquette?<br /><br />1. <span style="font-weight:bold;">When asked, please listen.</span> Movie theatres, playhouses, museums, doctors’ offices and other public places often make special requests for patrons to turn phones to off. Ringing phones break concentration, change the tone and interfere with the need for quiet. <br />2. <span style="font-weight:bold;">Be respectful of others sharing the space.</span> One cannot always enjoy the privacy necessary for a conversation. When space is at a premium or there are too many people, (ie. the elevator) turn off the phone. Or at least put your conversation on hold for those few moments.<br />3. <span style="font-weight:bold;">Adjust all volumes, phone rings and speaking voice.</span> It’s frightening to have a phone break the silence with a ring loud enough to wake those in Australia! The other no-no is speaking in a voice loud enough for others to hear. Keep your conversation brief and speak in a low voice when absolutely necessary.<br />4. <span style="font-weight:bold;">Turn the phone off with loved ones, friends and during meetings.</span> Everyone is important. No one is cooler or busier because they are talking on a cell phone while socializing with other people. Try not to interrupt an engaging conversation by taking a call mid-sentence, during dinner, on a date or even job interview. The call can go right to voice mail and returned at a more convenient and private time. <br />5. <span style="font-weight:bold;">Driving and texting don’t mix.</span> Multi-task at home or at work, not when it can impact the lives of others. Many laws have been created regarding the use and limitation of cell phones. Check your state regulations. If there is urgency for a call, pull over to the side of the road. After all, the life you save could be mine!<br /><br />Cell phones are a remarkable invention; however, there can be a point when they are overused, abused, an annoyance, a bother, an irritation and a nuisance. <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> classes offer children the opportunity to learn the etiquette of cell phone use. Kids learn how to answer, leave messages and explore the manners and responsibilities that are necessary to use and own a cell phone. It’s a social skill for all ages... Set an example for others, starting now. Courtesy is contagious!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-36917159136217021352010-12-29T09:28:00.000-08:002010-12-29T09:36:49.767-08:00New Year's Resolutions<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFTiS6tlXoRPOCRXEXlh3pRmipRMrRSni2muM1lgTpnkoKpFaXyXv1bYgTgAz0p4G3YziQYMWA8vQCSc421kRzz2R8yUstw7H-OvjofE_WCi3bAwrcjrC6z341ghC4VcsKoOMGCSVsQCk/s1600/nye+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 228px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiFTiS6tlXoRPOCRXEXlh3pRmipRMrRSni2muM1lgTpnkoKpFaXyXv1bYgTgAz0p4G3YziQYMWA8vQCSc421kRzz2R8yUstw7H-OvjofE_WCi3bAwrcjrC6z341ghC4VcsKoOMGCSVsQCk/s320/nye+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5556158878077792482" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-style:italic;">(Forgive us friends, for we have been negligent. It has been almost 2 months since our last post... Better late than never!)</span><br /><br />As the New Year approaches, it is a good time to review some of last year’s social highlights and check for areas to change, improve or tweak. When this year’s holiday parties come to a close for 2010, there is opportunity to evaluate and take note of the value of one’s social skills. <br /><br />All month long there have been episodes of individuals’ double-dunking, licking fingers at the table and the best, eating crudités directly over the platter as excess sauce was drooled right into the dip bowl (Yuck)! There were observable first dates with conversation flowing in only one direction, missed appointments and inappropriate attire at parties and social gatherings. During a shopping frenzy at a local shop, acceptable behaviors were replaced with nasti-tudes, observed when two women got into a vulgar verbal quarrel. <br /><br />Friendships were strained by inappropriate comments, breakdown in communication and lack of sensitivity. Families were lax in extending common courtesies to one another. Bullies ruled in schools as administrators were in a quandary of how to handle situations. Words such as please and thank you often were forgotten in conversations and feelings were hurt. Sorry was often too late. <br /><br />Farting and other bodily noises increased, becoming much more visible and acceptable on TV, in the movies and in comedy shows. Radios blasted in decibels so high, they registered on the Richter scale. Guests and hosts forgot their manners by having unrealistic expectations and making impossible demands of time and resources. <br /><br />As cell phone technology improved and use was on the rise, basic etiquette spiraled downward exponentially. It was not unusual to dine with people texting at the table, conversing in loud tones in quiet or public places, and checking scores at social functions.<br /><br />Conducting business in the waiting room of a doctor’s office was one of the many examples of lack of consideration.<br /><br />As we move into the New Year, <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> invites everyone to think about adding a resolution that gives latitude to gratitude by incorporating a new social skill. Here are a few ideas!<br /><br />Have a conversation without using the word “I”. Give others the leeway to share their thoughts, ideas and experiences. Listen more.<br /><br />Add the magic words please and thank you in conversation, especially when talking to children. According to <a href="http://www2.fiu.edu/~oea/InsightsFall2004/online_library/articles/daily%20activities%20to%20help%20change%20habits.htm">research</a>, it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Use the next month to assure the addition of those words to daily vocabulary. Set the example, model the behavior and watch the words appear in the child’s every day language<br /><br />Make a commitment to learn table manners. Give yourself the freedom to enjoy social situations where etiquette will come in handy be it a first date, business dinner, formal fundraiser or casual celebration. <br /><br />Take time for pampering oneself. Getting enough rest and relaxation fosters patience and politeness with others.<br /><br />Book an <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> party or class for your next home or school function. Any <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> workshop is a welcome and fun addition to an organization’s meeting, professional seminar or business event. Programs are fun, entertaining and filled with strategies to include etiquette in a corporate culture and everyday life. <br /><br />Please let us know how you are doing. We invite you to share a success story or tell us how your resolutions are progressing. May the year bring joy, good health and peace to all….Thank you!EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-16827322559692008602010-11-04T19:22:00.000-07:002010-11-04T19:42:59.983-07:00To Chew or Not To Chew...<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiybodIfIuPFB8kErVOc1YCUdxKtG9mTLvynQXqLzAJO3LtLRA1Nfm7Kbni6MFvfheQzKbhR0zDq6zv6zKUIHpoYQbCsmGwxWBibat60MUFh6F3TzKh6dPHUHWn9D25NZfxMkcckQ7adeE/s1600/EtiKids+chewing_gum.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 192px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiybodIfIuPFB8kErVOc1YCUdxKtG9mTLvynQXqLzAJO3LtLRA1Nfm7Kbni6MFvfheQzKbhR0zDq6zv6zKUIHpoYQbCsmGwxWBibat60MUFh6F3TzKh6dPHUHWn9D25NZfxMkcckQ7adeE/s320/EtiKids+chewing_gum.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5535890585114886386" /></a><br />That is the question…<br /><br />Kids put many objects into their mouths such as fingers, pen tops, pencil erasers, but one of the most socially acceptable items found in the oral cavity is chewing gum. A popular habit from the age of the caveman, it is often used to relieve stress, freshen breath, and may even prevent plaque buildup and gum disease. Studies by <a href="http://www.wrigley.com/global/benefits-of-chewing/wrigley-science-institute.aspx">The Wrigley Science Institute</a> (dedicated to studying gum), have suggested it may have an effect on appetite and memory. Not to mention that it is most helpful providing oral-motor stimulation to a child with sensory needs (talk to your <a href="http://aota.org/">Occupational Therapist</a> about this). According to <a href="http://www.chewinggumfacts.com/">chewinggumfacts.com</a>, over 100,000 tons of chewing gum are being consumed every year. It clearly provides enjoyment and sensory stimulation to many people. <span style="font-weight:bold;">But...</span> While gum can be useful, gum chewing can be one of the most annoying habits to watch. <br /><br />Sticky and gooey, a piece of gum can be chewed for hours, used to blow bubbles or “put it on the bedpost overnight”** to resume chewing in the morning. It can end up on the bottom of an unsuspecting shoe, stuck in someone’s hair, strategically placed under a desk or plastered all over an unsuspecting face once the bubble bursts. It is pliable enough to stretch into long strands, twist into pretzels and can be used to make hideously loud clacking noises. Mostly, it is irritating to everyone else subjected to watching the monotonous chewing motion and listening to the sound effects of repetitive mastication. Since gum is not on the verge of extinction, should gum be banned or is there etiquette to chewing the rubber? <br /><br />Two problems noted by Sheryl Eberly, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/365-Manners-Kids-Should-Know/dp/0609806378/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1">365 Manners Kids Should Know</a> are the visual image and what to do after it’s been chewed (known as ABC gum). The most obvious solution is not to partake in the habit which is not really a viable alternative. <br /><br />Following a few simple <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a>' guidelines can help eliminate references to “<span style="font-style:italic;">chewing like a cow</span>” or other ruminant animals from family, friends and teachers. Basically, chewing gum should be avoided in public places such as school, houses of worship, social events (weddings, birthday parties, theater), job interviews, private classes or studios, and any other place one may talk, eat or disturb others. <br /><br />· Use small pieces one at a time, not giant wads that pad the cheeks. <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> stresses social skills and encourages behaviors that keep food inside the mouth. This is much easier to do if the mouth is not full. Bubbles are a no-no! <br /><br />· Cracking gum and blowing bubbles is not an enjoyable experience for those not chewing. To be polite, refrain from such actions. The person on the left will be quite thankful.<br /><br />· While chewing, lips should remain closed. This helps to eliminate sound effects. Chomping noises are never considered good manners. <br /><br />· Share with friends. If one is tempted to slip a piece of gum into the mouth, make sure a piece is offered to accompanying friends.<br /><br />· To remove gum from the mouth, place in a tissue and put in the trash. Please do not throw it in the toilet or spit it out. That’s a blog for another time!<br /><br />Parents can set be helpful and set guidelines. Exaggerate for children what open mouth chewing looks like and discuss how it is perceived. Explain that it is difficult to remove if it gets on one’s clothes or in hair, and it should not to be swallowed. <br /><br />Most important for safety, <span style="font-weight:bold;">parents should remember choking is one of the leading causes of death to children that are age three and under</span>. In addition to the usual dangers of hot dogs, peanuts and whole grapes, chewing gum is listed as a safety hazard by the <a href="http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;125/3/601">American Academy of Pediatrics</a> and should be a concern for parents. Be prepared, learn the Heimlich maneuver! <br /><br />**DOES YOUR CHEWING GUM LOSE ITS FLAVOUR ON THE BEDPOST OVERNIGHT?<br /><span style="font-style:italic;"><br />Oh-me, oh-my, oh-you<br />Whatever shall I do<br />Hallelujah, the question is peculiar<br />I'd give a lot of dough<br />If only I could know<br />The answer to my question<br />Is it yes or is it no<br /><br />Does your chewing gum lose its flavour<br />On the bedpost overnight<br />If your mother says don't chew it<br />Do you swallow it in spite<br />Can you catch it on your tonsils<br />Can you heave it left and right<br />Does your chewing gum lose its flavour<br />On the bedpost overnight</span><br /><br />Based on the 1924 original by Ernest Hare & Billy Jones, "Does The Spearmint Lose Its Flavor On The Bedpost Overnight? (Marty Bloom / Ernest Breuer / Billy Rose)<br /><br />Lonnie Donegan - 1958 (Also recorded by: Ding Dongs)EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-71913260782704105552010-10-18T12:26:00.000-07:002010-10-18T17:03:49.136-07:00Don't Yuck My Yum<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEja3hDqyhH4lDbVUvntYaVMHXB8kRRT3MoIfSrDgILeMuk5aUG5EI9t9SkLb1wClCDZ6RxraNP4TQujeeaVbnAfOnAxrylMpKPkvX-aTvnLHKw3uL2N_yFMxNiPrl7d0egTPp4o35gvcsI/s1600/Yuck+EtiKids+Etiquette.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 198px; height: 254px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEja3hDqyhH4lDbVUvntYaVMHXB8kRRT3MoIfSrDgILeMuk5aUG5EI9t9SkLb1wClCDZ6RxraNP4TQujeeaVbnAfOnAxrylMpKPkvX-aTvnLHKw3uL2N_yFMxNiPrl7d0egTPp4o35gvcsI/s320/Yuck+EtiKids+Etiquette.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529476370006114978" /></a><br />Yuck! Everyone has heard the word, spoken the word or wanted to say it <span style="font-weight:bold;">at least</span> one time. It could happen eating a family dinner, tasting a new restaurant dish, sampling an unlucky-pot dish or simply nibbling at a bad meal in the home of a friend. Adults think “Yuck, this taste’s awful,” and a child might exclaim, “This is yucky!” The burning question: does one actually have to eat the food, or is there a socially acceptable way to deal with the “yuck?”<br /><br />The bad food situation can arise either at home with family or in public. Often, one look at a dish with a unique presentation (fish with the head attached) or hearing the inclusion of an unusual ingredient (sardines) is enough to cause the exclamation “<span style="font-weight:bold;">Yuck!</span>” Begin exposing children to different kinds of foods at an early age, as that is the time they are most impressionable. <span style="font-weight:bold;">Studies have shown that children need to be exposed to new foods 10 times before actually being able to decide whether or not they like it.</span> Therefore, introduce it in fun and different ways. Just in time for the Halloween season are Chocolate Avocado Cupcakes with Avocado Buttercream Frosting, which can be found on the blog <a href="http://chocolatteandtea.blogspot.com/2010/10/chocolate-avocado-cupcakes-with-avocado.html">Chocolate and Tea</a> (avocados are seriously mystical foods!). <br /><br />Another way to lessen the stress of unwanted/"yucky" foods at mealtimes: engage children by planning meals together. Use a food chart, shopping for ingredients and teaching them how to make healthy food decisions, which will ultimately prepare children to make better choices for themselves. <br /><br />Finally, parents can explain that the word “yuck” is not an acceptable way to describe food on the table and provide a suitable alternative response. If the child does not wish to try something, a simple <span style="font-weight:bold;">No Thank You</span> will suffice. After all, not wanting to sample a dish does not mean that manners should be lead astray!<br /><br />It is important for children to realize a meal takes time and effort to concoct. Our <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> can understand preparation communicates caring for others and makes people happy. Expressing feelings by making faces or describing how yucky the food tastes is hurtful behavior and should not be excused. It is also important to be sensitive to other people's feelings; everyone does not have the same interests in food, and various choices should be respected. In <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a>, one of our favorite phrases is "<span style="font-style:italic;">Don't Yuck My Yum!<span style="font-weight:bold;"></span></span>" <br /><br />At the home of a friend or in a restaurant with other people, there is ample opportunity for exposure to strange or unusual foods. First, one should never say “<span style="font-style:italic;">yuck</span>” out loud. Second, “<span style="font-style:italic;">Thank you, I’ll try a little</span>,” is the perfect way to accept a small helping if it is a new food or one is unsure of the taste. If the flavor is too strong or tastes unpleasant, one can hide the fact by playing and pushing small pieces around the plate. <span style="font-weight:bold;">Please do not feed the pet as many animals have allergies and can become very ill.</span> Spitting into a napkin is never good manners! <br /><br />Individuals with food allergies, medically restricted diets can say, “<span style="font-style:italic;">It looks delicious, but I am gluten free</span>.” For ingredients which are unknown or suspect, “<span style="font-style:italic;">No thank you, I have a food allergy</span>,” is a polite and acceptable answer.<br /><br />As grownups, set an example and be a role model; try new foods and experiment! Try to sample different dishes and be open to new tastes and textures... But please, <span style="font-weight:bold;">Don't Yuck My Yum!</span>EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-47341516352259003052010-10-14T18:16:00.000-07:002010-10-14T18:45:29.560-07:00The Name Game<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-Pu2Px41Ma01sIMZ69xbZe_805AJRr7qOHe9aUd3uEVThle927dDD_hxGXzHy-ywBZomAqPboRqQ8PCcdA_xHvbVOp9Rq_6XxzY9zsX351Hn5zO34KwtE_tuaES0vAF_hi3oUHhpFXug/s1600/Forget+Name+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 125px; height: 125px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-Pu2Px41Ma01sIMZ69xbZe_805AJRr7qOHe9aUd3uEVThle927dDD_hxGXzHy-ywBZomAqPboRqQ8PCcdA_xHvbVOp9Rq_6XxzY9zsX351Hn5zO34KwtE_tuaES0vAF_hi3oUHhpFXug/s320/Forget+Name+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5528081890354447922" /></a><br /> <br />Walking into a favorite department store with one’s best friend in search of a brand new pick-me up mood lipstick, two pair of eyes immediately scan for the cosmetics department. Blocking the path? A multicolored colossal flower-print dress and flashy gold handbag furiously gesticulate within the sight line. All motor and visual motion abruptly stops. In a flash palpitations patter feverishly, saliva drips from the sides of the mouth and an overwhelming sense of panic develops. As The Dress moves closer, it is apparent... You don’t remember her name. You should know it, as introductions will need to be made. But at this moment, it has conveniently escaped. Introductions will need to be made. NOW WHAT?<br /><br />Introductions are an important part of making new friendships and keeping them. There are times when introductions can be a challenge. One of the most embarrassing situations can be forgetting someone’s name. Regardless of age, it happens to everyone at one time or another. An introduction has to be made, memory fails, and suddenly a person’s name remains perched on the tip of the tongue. When this happens there are three ways to handle this:<br /><br />Fess up! One can sincerely apologize and say to the person, “So very sorry for the absentminded moment, but I just forgot your name”. They may get miffed for the moment, but more often then not, they appreciate sincerity. Honesty pays and there was no running and hiding in the clothing rack to avoid saying hello! As you age, this begins to happen with increased frequency, so most people will be understanding, forgiving and may even laugh! ** (Caution: This will not work if it is a relative, child, spouse or close friend!)<br /><br />Investigate! Is there someone nearby who may know who the person is? One can approach another person and simply ask, “Who is the person wearing the flowered muumuu?” This must be done quickly and discreetly but usually yields a positive result.<br /><br />The Sting! This operation is a bit more complex and works on the principle that when a person meets someone, there will be mutual introductions. “Hi! We met at lunch last week. I’m Jamie, and this is my friend, Brett”. The logical response for person C is, “Yes, I remember. I’m Sam. It’s nice to see you again, Jamie, and a pleasure to meet you, Brett”. In a variation, Person A sends over Person B to introduce themselves hoping that person C will also reveal their name. Person B then reports back to person A. <br /><br />To avoid forgetting an introduction, one can use memory tricks to help reinforce names. This is done by assigning a trait to the person such as Jerry has a big smile. Because Jerry and merry rhyme, the word association becomes Merry Jerry. Parents can teach and help build word associations for the children.<br /><br />Whatever strategy one chooses to use, it is important to remember that people like to hear their names mentioned. Children can be taught to use the words ‘I’m sorry” or apologize for not remembering a name. That social skill is even more effective when made with eye contact! Role playing prior to a new social situation, where they are likely to meet new people, can help build confidence and increase the child’s level of comfort. <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">Teaching children etiquette</a> helps to prevent potentially awkward and uncomfortable situations. As we want children to meet success, we should prepare them (as best we can) for potential social mishaps and how to gracefully handle them. <br /><br />OK… Now what were we talking about?EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-5935488204429096122010-09-27T17:44:00.000-07:002010-10-02T07:35:20.669-07:00Potty Talk<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgobI-WiK93avbxPYEtwKE_3B-zqnyule7a5Q0HTsoVqLy8EQ68QqdNr067THZKzPUlq-uoQPLBwmPrbvFKvfaNyQUm92JK4_IS1aVAz8q2jRJqQAxYPBJoNst03phKAyKa4S3JRBGpRIg/s1600/Potty+Talk+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 160px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgobI-WiK93avbxPYEtwKE_3B-zqnyule7a5Q0HTsoVqLy8EQ68QqdNr067THZKzPUlq-uoQPLBwmPrbvFKvfaNyQUm92JK4_IS1aVAz8q2jRJqQAxYPBJoNst03phKAyKa4S3JRBGpRIg/s320/Potty+Talk+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5521762943636219634" /></a><br />Oh Sh#%! Da*& it! F#@*7! Hearing these words pop out of the mouth of a preschooler (or anyone else) can make hair stand straight out of one’s head. Needless to say, it usually happens at an inopportune moment such as a social gathering, in class, or at the dinner table! The 2-year-old shouting “Stupid head” or “Butthead” at passing cars usually triggers an instant alarm of fear as the parent realizes this could result in a carpool expulsion. Children are fascinated with “bad” words, and learn them quicker than their assigned vocabulary words. The initial response of laughter that the child receives is usually more than enough to fuel continuous repetitions of the offending language. The worst part is this negative behavior will take exponentially longer to break!<br /><br />The issue raised is not just limited to curse words. Bathroom or potty language and words which <a href="http://www.etikids.com/index.html">EtiKids</a> refers to as <span style="font-weight:bold;">S-words</span> (stupid, sh*t, sucks, and shut up) can also be a problem faced by a parent or teacher. Older children may think it is “cool” to use words that describe bodily functions and noises, while younger children mimic what they hear. Sometimes repeating bathroom words is a way to get a reaction or gain attention. Realize it is a way of experimenting with language. So, if trying out new words and learning how to communicate are part of learning social skills and manners, what is the best way to re-train a potty mouth child? <br /><br />Displaying a lack of interest is the simplest tactic to phase out incessant repetition of naughty expressions. Without strong feedback, most preschoolers won’t bother repeating these terms. Why bother if you can’t get a rise out of parents? <br /><br />Ask the child what the word means. Discourage use of words whose meanings are unknown. Explain why some words are offensive and hurtful to other people. X-rated vocabulary and forbidden words are not “cool” and can be banned by parents because they are inappropriate in almost all situations. <br /><br />Restrict bathroom words to the restroom. After a while, the child typically finds it tiresome to run back and forth to the lavatory just to talk about bodily functions and spill out potty words. <br /><br />Control word categories that are on the fringe. Growing up, the use of "<span style="font-weight:bold;">S-words</span>" was not tolerated. These expressions included: stupid, sh*t, sucks and shut up. Although the latter has become an acceptable phrase of surprise (or synonym for no kidding), telling someone to “<span style="font-style:italic;">shut up</span>” is perceived as rude and insensitive. <br /><br />Monitoring TV programs can limit some exposure to words with derogatory meanings such as “butthead”, which became popular terminology following <a href="http://www.mtv.com/">MTV</a>'s programming. Remind children that using insulting words or expressions can become a habit, slipping out without any warning and be embarrassing for everyone.<br /><br />Although the word hate has different meanings, we mention it here. It can be used in a spiteful manner and is a learned behavior. Shouting “<span style="font-style:italic;">I hate you!</span>” to a parent is universal to children all over the world. A little 4-year-old friend repeated her mother’s favorite quote, “Hate is a very strong word, and we should never use it!” <a href="http://projects.jou.ufl.edu/ktrammell/project2/crimes/stophate.htm">The More You Know public service campaign</a>, (NBC 2003) reminded us, "Hate is a four-letter word. So is love. Which word will you teach your child?" <br /><br />Finally, the very best way to diminish the use of negative words is to set a positive example for children. Replace curse words with alternative phrases such as “Darn it! Dang! Good Grief! Geepers Creepers! Rats! Shucks!” <br /><br />Let us know your favorite expression! Or most inappropriate story. :) Contact us at <a href="http://www.etikids.com/dear-julie.html">Dear Julie</a> or <a href="info@etikids.com">info@etikids.com</a> with your stories.EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-32184674601735791842010-09-23T18:32:00.000-07:002010-09-23T19:08:15.200-07:00Hole's Not Big Enough?<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibnYyOt6-RJdElFUQD36CaSBl2y2DrYcZslEg61OQH3z7Uq4IfIYbjP8nwgDpKKKSqx9aNjzVI2knHV6xlV6pAW3n7nGMkcvBnJs97Qsbg58eph5nJQnjQSgxZgKbrvNUsFKmtYwYTIJI/s1600/Oops+Comments+EtiKids.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 267px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEibnYyOt6-RJdElFUQD36CaSBl2y2DrYcZslEg61OQH3z7Uq4IfIYbjP8nwgDpKKKSqx9aNjzVI2knHV6xlV6pAW3n7nGMkcvBnJs97Qsbg58eph5nJQnjQSgxZgKbrvNUsFKmtYwYTIJI/s320/Oops+Comments+EtiKids.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5520294641195478930" /></a><br />People come in a variety of colors, sizes and shapes and often face difficulties during their lifetime. Some of these challenges may be emotional while others are more physical and visually apparent. It always seems children are most astute in noting all our differences. Some comments are positive observations: a teacher’s new hairdo or mom’s new dress. More often than not, these comments are made verbally at higher than normal decibels, in extremely trafficked areas, and simply embarrassing. “Why is that man so much smaller than me?” “Look at the lady with no hair!” Certainly there are a multitude of examples to share that just “pop out” of a child’s mouth. How do you address the child’s remark without squelching curiosity, teach an important social skill and maintain a semblance of sanity?<br /><br />First, if the comment was audible, offer apologies immediately. “I would like to apologize for the comment that was made,” is one way to express your regret. This clearly serves as an example of sensitivity, provides an atmosphere of understanding and models a social skill. Softly assure the child everything will be explained in a more appropriate place. Then address the issue immediately. Using a concrete example helps children conceptualize information with greater ease. Find a quiet place where the child can sit and ask a few questions. More often than not, a simple explanation is all that is required. Don’t worry the beet red color disappears quickly!<br /><br />Second, open the discussion by asking about feelings. “What would it feel if a person said something unkind or hurt your feelings?” Offer the child an opportunity to whisper something softly if they need to ask a question. This way feelings won’t be hurt. Sheryl Eberly, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/365-Manners-Kids-Should-Know/dp/0609806378">365 Manners Kids Should Know</a>, explains that “people with disabilities don’t want to create a scene wherever they go and shouldn’t have to explain their situation to strangers.” Throughout the <a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> program, focus is placed on similarities people share and identifying the way differences enhance our environment and our world. <br /><br />Many school programs now offer sensitivity training by using wheelchairs, earplugs to simulate situations facing people with disabilities. Ask the child to use one hand or keep eyes closed while picking up their toys to experience a little of the physical challenges that exist. <br /><br />Third, examine personal perspectives. Many times we are unaware of nonverbal information transmitted to others. Any actions (eye rolling, head shaking, frown or scowl) or comments which highlight negative perceptions are easily and rapidly adapted by children. <a href="http://www.betweenparentandchild.com/">Dr. Haim Ginott</a> compares children to wet cement. “Whatever falls on them makes an impression.” Why are bad habits learned so much quicker than good ones? Opening the door for someone in a wheelchair, helping someone who can’t reach an item on a top shelf in the grocery store, or complimenting someone’s new outfit can help a child see what positive social norms dictate. <br /><br />Children aren’t the only ones making mistakes. Adults sometimes share inappropriate comments and may benefit from a manners makeover too. “You are really that old?” “Why did you get fired from your job?” “Sally is so fat!” Taking the time to consider how a comment will impact someone else can prevent hurt feelings and serve as a model to children. When we err, the quickest, most effective and easiest way to remedy a situation is just to say, “<span style="font-weight:bold;">I’m sorry</span>”. <br /> <br />Share your harrowing story with us at <a href="http://www.etikids.com/dear-julie.html">Dear Julie</a> or <a href="info@etikids.com">info@etikids.com</a>. Remember Mark Twain’s quote, “<span style="font-style:italic;">Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt</span>.”EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7644123917882420248.post-54914375538989289262010-09-14T14:53:00.000-07:002010-09-15T15:51:26.313-07:00Sleepover and Out!<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAFks-egts1AXbkfvLzSlF0go7H3T9W70GsmPgZDjcLD5028cQikP_eeTzW0lNYYLA3b_dlDCEGAigiKJhCcfpnq4edceKdGOs7ZgpLO12Cun0H5papg8YzK8oDmGlFKIkTGpDeVZpoDs/s1600/EtiKids+Sleepover+Etiquette.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiAFks-egts1AXbkfvLzSlF0go7H3T9W70GsmPgZDjcLD5028cQikP_eeTzW0lNYYLA3b_dlDCEGAigiKJhCcfpnq4edceKdGOs7ZgpLO12Cun0H5papg8YzK8oDmGlFKIkTGpDeVZpoDs/s320/EtiKids+Sleepover+Etiquette.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5517276290003939314" /></a><br />Remember how scary it was to sleep at a friend’s house for the first time? There was fear of not knowing where the bathroom was, waking up in the middle of the night and wanting to go home. What if food tasted funny or you got a bellyache in the middle of the night? Even more worries surfaced when the bathrobe, dangling on the door, appeared to be a ghost. Sometime during the day, while playing with lots of different toys, the idea of turning the playdate to a sleepover seemed like a good idea. Now what? <br /><br />Pack those pajamas! Create a simple list so children can participate in the packing process. This allows the child to become an active, willing and responsible participant. It also helps kids know what they will have to unpack when returning home. A teddy bear or favorite book can help ease the transition. Packing personal care items will be appreciated by the host, who won’t have to supply toothpaste, toothbrush, or other toiletries. <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Dress in the best manners</span>: Leave bodily noises like farting or burping for the bathroom. Play fair and include the host’s runny-nose brother or squealing sister in games. Secrets are for sissies and make others feel bad. Remember to ask before using the phone or taking something out of the refrigerator. Absolutely and positively respect privacy. Resist the urge to peek or snoop into the belongings of other people. <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"><br />Neatness counts.</span> Ask the host where to place the overnight bag. Encourage children to keep all their clothes and toys in or on the suitcase. Leaving shoes and stinky underwear all over the house will not earn a return invitation. A sleepover is not a scavenger hunt for dirty clothes or an excuse to mess up someone else’s room! <br /><br />"<span style="font-style:italic;">With a butterfly kiss and a ladybug hug, sleep tight little one like a bug in a rug.</span>" (Author: Unknown) Bedtime usually comes right in the middle of a favorite TV show or winning game. Parents know that chattering and giggling are part of every sleepover, but they won’t want to be on patrol all night long. When the host parent says “Bedtime for teddy bears and all other little children,” the guest should start to get ready for bed, even if the host child runs around the house like a wild animal!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Not all families are the same.</span> As a guest, one should keep an eye on the customs of the house. Politely follow the bedtime ritual of the house, which may include bedtime snack, teeth brushing, and bedtime story. <br /><br /><a href="http://www.etikids.com/">EtiKids</a> stresses the use of <span style="font-style:italic;">please</span>, <span style="font-style:italic;">thank you</span>, <span style="font-style:italic;">excuse me</span> and <span style="font-style:italic;">sorry</span> in all social situations. Reinforcing these words at home helps them become an integral part of the child’s vocabulary. “Thank you for inviting me to sleep at your house” can be followed up with a written note to encourage politeness, writing and social skills. Remember, even though a child may not always express their gratitude at home, they are capable of thanking their host, learning to be a gracious guest and helping with simple and caring tasks. <br /><br />With all of the helpful information above, your child is ready to put it into practice. As stated in Maurice Sendak’s book, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Where_the_Wild_Things_Are">Where the Wild Things Are</a>, "Let the wild rumpus begin!"EtiKidshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12940437612533325668noreply@blogger.com0